We've been invited to a few parties lately, and although it's a sign that we have got some good friends around us who wish to celebrate milestones together, it also brings up a sense of dread as the parties approach. Some friends offer to accomodate for our son's restricted diet, but on the whole we've declined such offers. In general, unless you have an allergy child, the precautions needed in food preparation is, simply put, ridiculous, and I wouldn't risk our son's health in the hands of others, no matter how well-meaning. Plus, even if the food was carefully prepared, once it lands on the table and people begin to help themselves, the risk of contamination is too high.
One recent exception was where I contacted the trained cook, identified all the ingredients being used and clarified exactly which oils were being used - not generic vegetable oil, but specifically sunflower oil. The cupcakes were in paper liners, so the risk of contamination reduced. On this one occasion, I forced myself to trust another person, whom I have never personally met, with the health of my child. I decided beforehand what sized portions I would allow... just in case there was contamination. On the day, our son had two small pieces then was too interested in the toys to bother. So, problem solved :-) However, I realised that having the cupcakes on a tray for anyone to take left us open for contamination from sticky little fingers that had touched other dangerous foods. Even using plastic plates demanded some thought. I took a plate from the middle of the pile rather than the top one just in case someone had placed anything on it before us. Fortunately the cutlery was still in its packaging so that was fine. Sound neurotic? Try living like this every day!!
Anyway, then I thought perhaps if I write a list of the most dreaded party foods, this might help other friends of allergy families. So what foods do I wish were never served at a party??
1. Bowls of nuts - these are prone to being dropped. If they are at child-height everything turns ugly since the oil on nuts doesn't come off easily and is quickly wiped onto toys, furniture and people.
2. Meringues - these are especially popular in Australia. I don't blame people, they used to be my favourite. Now I never make them since they are essentially very crumbly, sweet bits of egg white waiting to be dropped then picked up by a toddler.
3. Bowls or plates of food conveniently scattered around a room - these are too convenient for little fingers and on-the-play-eating (as opposed to on-the-run-eating). We try and keep all the food in a certain area - this helps with clean-up afterwards too adults!
After saying all this, we don't want to be party poopers. We still want to be able to enjoy the company of others. We do actually like and love these people and their children! So what's the solution?
Actually, if we all just sat down to eat properly, then, when we finished, washed our hands and mouth, then went on to play... everything would be sweet!! If this applied to kids too, then there wouldn't be risks of food dropped, or smeared onto anything. Wouldn't that be lovely! We'd all probably have more parties and go to more parties - and who doesn't want that?!
I totally agree with you ~ I'm happiest at a party if 1) no nuts are served AND 2) I prepare all my child's food.ReplyDelete
It might sound over cautious ~ but it's not. You're so right!
The risk of cross contamination is too high for certain items to be served openly, but I don't feel safe asking another person to take the precautions we have to take in food preparation.
Thanks for sharing my cartoon :)
Hi Tiffany, your cartoons have brought a smile to my face many times over the last few weeks. They are a great way to start discussion on all sorts of topics.ReplyDelete
Thanks for your reassurance though, sometimes we can get all wound up in our own way of thinking, it's hard to know whether it's the right thing to be doing or not. Hooray for it being the right thing this time!
wow its so familiar. we stopped going to other parties just our close friends as they know the situation. We never let our son have nuts because of his allergies but he found one on the grass at my mothers befor we had epipens. People dont realize if they touch something and touch a plate your child will come up. and yes kids dropping food, I am a nervous reck at parties but I dont want him to feel like he miss's out so we compramise. keziahReplyDelete
I agree Keziah, we are always on alert, but for a kid, we want them to have that carefree enjoyment as long as they can!ReplyDelete
I approach parties now with an acceptance that I am not going there to enjoy myself really, but for the sake of others and to share their celebrations. Saying that, sometimes I do enjoy myself, and that is always a pleasant surprise!